MILITARY REPORT: Spousal support

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FAIRBANKS, Alaska - When many people think of the military, service members are the ones who come to mind.
But behind those who serve our country is a great support system - the family.
For this week's 'Military Report,' Julia Laude explores what it takes to be a military spouse.
Standing at the altar is a big commitment for many people, but for these spouses, their 'I Do' meant something different.
Katherine Groth; Air Force Wife>>: "The overarching theme of the Air Force and Air Force life is that there is something bigger than you."
Rebekah Speck; Air Force Wife>>: "Sometimes it's a whirl wind and a cloud of confusion and you're not really sure day to day how things happen."
Mithcell Hastings>>: "It's a scheduling thing for us. Trying to see whose home, whose not, whose in the field."
Tiffany Hensley>>: "At the end of the day, when you marry a solider, you marry part of the Army."
Being a military spouse can come with quite the commitment.
With her prior military experience, it gave Danielle O'Donnell the opportunity to better help newlywed spouses.
Danielle O'Donnell; Program Manager, Army Community Service>>: "Understanding the fact that mission comes first, before family and that's hard for a new spouse that's a civilian to understand because of course you want your spouse there by your side at all times and not understanding that their job actually comes first before you, it's difficult and it's hard for a lot of our spouses this day and age to understand. We have a thing called Op tempo or operations are high right now and so what happens is our soldiers are constantly in the field, they're constantly in train mode, so having that understanding a head of time, has helped me, help other spouses, help themselves."
For many spouses loneliness can easily set in.
Getting involved in the Family Readiness Group or the Spouses Network is something they all agreed could help.
Rebekah Speck; Air Force Wife>>: "When my daughter was born my neighbor became a rock. It was like having a sister live next door to you. Definitely build that crew, that group who you can pick up the phone or go bang on their door at 10 o'clock at night and say, 'I need help.'"
Katherine Groth; Air Force Wife>>: "When you're thousands of miles away from your biological family you really have to make the people that are around you your family."
Groth and Army husband Mitchell Hastings agree that communication and planning is key to a good relationship.
O'Donnell says to always be ready for change.
This is Julia Laude reporting.