FAIRBANKS, Alaska (KTVF) Beverly Gooden has been a social activist for 5 years and has appeared on multiple news outlets. She often speaks out about the complexities of partnered violence. At her recent presentation at UAF she recalled her first activist movement, starting the trending hashtag #WhyIStayed. Encouraging victims of domestic abuse to speak out against victim blaming.
Beverly Gooden (pictured above) has been a domestic abuse activist for 5 years and has appeared on multiple news outlets including her recent presentation at University of Alaska Fairbanks. (Carly Sjordal/KTVF)
“’Why I stayed’ was in 2014, it was a response to a football player who assaulted his wife and so when that happened, when the video came out a lot of the conversation was around her. Like: Why would she stay with him? Why would anyone stay with someone who abused them? Knowing that I has been in that situation and I had been someone who was in that relationship and stayed with my abuser I decided to speak out and tell some of the reasons for staying. I hash-tagged it ‘Why I Stayed’ and it took off from there,” said Gooden.
In Gooden’s presentation, she explained about her own struggles with domestic abuse and brought up a number of cases, in which the victim had tried to leave the relationship and ended up losing their lives. She also played a variety of different PSA’s about domestic abuse, explained facts and statistics, and talked about the signs of an abuser.
For the friends, family and community of someone experiencing domestic abuse, Gooden explained that the most important thing to remember, is compassion.
“It’s really difficult to live it and it’s ever harder to get out of it because so many things are tied up in it, whether its finances, family, custody, safety, things like that. And so having the information resources, being patient and gentle and kind to other people about what they are going through I’m here for you if you need anything. If you need any help I’m here for you,” was Gooden’s advice.
For those in need of help from domestic abuse, contact
The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233
Or the local Interior Alaska Center for Non-Violent Living
At (907) 452-7273 for their Crisis Line.
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